our smoke alarms keep going off, but there's no smoke! We think it may be because our house just got painted. But they won't stop! We had to shut the power to them off (and therefore the lights) to get some quiet. Taking the batteries our doesn't workwhat can we do?
He's just waiting for you to cave. If I were you, I'd try to talk to him about it but not give him back the piveledge of the car. Say that if he continues to act this way and ignore you, you'll take away more things. Make a point that all you really want is a genuine apology for him causing you trouble on your New Year's plans. Make sure that he knows that if he apologizes he will gain more priviledges back. Good luck with your son!
I would just break the ice and when you see him next, tell him that your sorry you grounded him like you did but the reason was because there were plans that he did know about way in advance and you took away the car to teach him a lesson and that your concerned that he hasn't spoken to you in a couple of days and would like to know if there is anything he needs to say, is there something you should know about and also you would appreciate an apology. Talk to him about this girl and if him having the car that day for the extra time he needed, was to better the relationship with this girl or did he not care that you needed the car? That he called you to say that he was going to the mall, even though he know he had to be home, I see it as respectful behavior on his part that he did call to say where he was. May be was having a good time and just wanted to be in that moment. I have 3 teens myself, one that has been driving for almost 2 years now, as moms and former teens, I think we have to remember what it was like for us in a car and that little joy of freedom and Independence and not being watched and on our own. Its easy for us to forget because its been so long but if we remember how we felt, I know that we will understand how they feel. Keep communication going. YOU have done a great job all of his life, keep it going, I know he will one day realize that you were his mom and dad and that you raised him on your own. I know he wont forget that.
Wow. Well, I always give my son the benefit of the doubt. If you don't talk to him, how are you to find out why he didn't answer his phone? You can't be a parent when you're acting like your son. Ignoring him gives him the upper hand. You said, he's testing you. If he's testing you, he's already won. Go to him and have a sensible conversation. What if something else is bothering him and instead of being there for him, you're stuck in this battle that you're not going to win. He may have been in a fight with his girlfriend. I know when I fight with my husband, we don't always make it to where we're supposed to be on time. He called you to let you know he was going to be late and he came home within 45 minutes. Is there something else that maybe you're angry with him about? Maybe you don't like that his new gf is 15? or you just don't like her? It just seems odd to me that you two would be having this big stand-off over a few minutes. Either way, you should talk to him. Life is too short to have a 5 day long argument.
Don't worry so much about speed. It will come. If you're new to motorcycles, you're getting comfortable right about now, but still don't understand the power you have between your legs (no pun intended). You're going to make a mistake. Keep the speed down a little and learn about turning the bike. That's not only where the real fun is, like getting your knee down, but it's also what will keep something bad from happening, like focusing on the wrong thing while you're riding (or panicking), and visually staying ahead of where the bike is visually. Redundance, and learning how the bike actually works is very important. If you don't know the basics, you're not going to be able to get faster safely. Have fun.
