I am so mad at my husband for staring down some girl in front of me never wanting to show me or share any affections. I tried talking to him he makes excuses and I had it with it all!I think right now I want to start sleeping on the sofa and out of the bedroom away from him. So I can think about things that's going on between us.That and then I don't have to deal with him just laying there night after night watching tv or playing on his iphone ignoring me.Do you think if I start doing this night after night he might finally get the point I am actually upset?
Rule #1...he will never get the point if he's the one sleeping on the nice soft bed. Tell him you're upset and he can sleep on the sofa. The bed is for bed stuff. If he wants to be on the phone or watching tv go to the sofa. Oh, and remove the tv from the bed room!! Good luck! Add-- Hey he's the one who wants to stay up and disturb the asker. He can buy a twin bed if he wants and sleep on that. Common civilary. Not a crazy concept... lol.
Just tell him what is bothering, you sleeping on the sofa, well, that is very passive aggressive, and for real he doesn't sound like he would really get it that you are upset. He ignores you for his iphone, and watching TV, he probably wouldn't realize that you weren't even in the room, so sleeping on the sofa, I don't think so,. The best thing is to just flat out tell him that he is inconsiderate, doesn't respect you, or the marriage and if you want to throw an ultimatum in there just be sure that you can back it up, because if you have done that before then relented then he doesn't believe you follow through with what you say. I think unless you get some type of counseling, and that is contingent on if you even want to go down that road, or if he is even open to going with you, I don't think you have much hope, Anger, resentment, no affection, that sounds like a downward spiral to me, and one person can't make a marriage work, it takes two, and to me he doesn't appear to be to interested in any of it. Good Luck
The danger of making that move is that the void gets larger and larger. Men, like pigs, can usually sleep in any kind of crisis. You will lie there tossing and turning on an uncomfortable couch while that dog is in your comfortable bed fast asleep. On the other hand, you may like sleeping alone so much that you start to resent even the thought of his hands ever being on you again. THAT MEANS YOU ARE OUT OF LOVE, OR RUNNING OUT FAST.
If he's the one that did something wrong, why should you be the one suffering on the couch? Sleeping on the couch will not prove a point. He will see it as you just being pissy for whatever reason, and figure you'll get over it eventually. And as for him not sharing any affections, have you tried seducing him? Guys get tired of making the first move all the time.
No, if you start sleeping on the couch you might end up with a sore back! Really, just tell him you need some more time and attention from him. Tell him you feel that he is ignoring you when the TV is on. Ask him to spend some time with you with out the TV or phone. Make sure the time you spend together with out distractions is FUN!! Men sometimes get lazy and don't even realize they aren't paying attention anymore. But remember if all he ever hears are negatives--then he may be using the TV and phone as a way to avoid hearing you nag at him and he's trying to avoid an argument. You know I've observed a lot of women who try to manipulate their men to do what they want instead of telling them what they need and want with out complaining at them constantly. The complaining and arguing make a man run away --that's when they start spending all their time in sports, TV, hobbies and even other women.
