Okay, I was thinking about this and I think I might do an inventory of each room, to figure it outI mean the bathroom has a lot of stuff between old perfumes and cologne that are no longer used, towels and clothesBut then the living room has Cd's and books and dvds etcetcSo what room in your house has the most stuff and do you know for sure(as in inventory) or are you just guessing.
She's obviously not happy eitherfor whatever reasonMaybe she is depressed with the big life change after the baby was born - it happensYou may feel that you've done enough, but maybe she wants to see that you want the marriage to work, tooMaybe you could set up the first meeting and then see if she picks up on her end of things? I can sort of understand not being happy if her looks have changed, but if that is your biggest concern, then I think it's a little shallowShe may not ever go back to looking the way that she did before she gave you your sonSometimes that changes our bodies, but that doesn't mean that she can't be thinnerIf she is dealing with depression, she may also be over eating and lack the strength and will power needed to start her exercise routineIt's clear that you've let her know exactly the reason you are unhappyIf you love your wife and actually want your marriage to work, you might want to put a little effort into finding out why she is unhappyNot caring at all about the way you look or even picking up after yourself are definately signs of depression.
Aww blessOur 7 week old does this sometimes and its so hardI guess you've tried loads of things but I'll tell you some things that I've found work for usI find getting in a bath with him helpsIt really calms him (and me!) down then he's all lovely and snuggly for sleep afterwardsI put a hairdryer on a warm but soft setting and prop it up somewhere safe, then hold him in different positions and rock him until his body relaxesMy husband jigs him gently but quickly, like vibrating him in his arms and that often helpsI find taking his nappy off and just holding a soft sheet around his bottom helps him relax (nappies must be annoying sometimes!) I always wonder, could it be something really simple like he is sensitive to a certain washing powder, or the label of his clothes is tickling his neck, or he's got an itch! Cos its rarely anything major, as you'd knowDo you use those anti colic bottles that reduce wind? As maybe he has trapped wind thats painful?
KitchenI know for sureBetween pantry items (canned and boxed food items, flour,sugar, baking supplies, oils, vinegars, sauces, condiments) cooking utensils, eating utensils, serving utensils, pots, pans, textiles, spices, plates, glasses, cups, saucers, appliances (large and small), tupperware, serving pieces, wraps disposable storage - aluminum foil, plastic wrap, parchment paper, sandwich bags, freezer bags, storage bags, pie plates, cake pans, cookie sheets, books etc, it wins hands down.
I'd take him to the pediatrician and explain what is going onIt could be gas or colic where over-the-counter things like mylicon drops or gripe water can helpOr it could be acid reflux and he may need prescription meds to help ease the painBoth my children had acid reflux as infants and it started pretty youngIt's something that's easily mistaken for colic though since a baby in pain from it will cry alot through out the day like a baby with colic willBefore you get him, take a few days to observe it all and write it down so you won't forgetWrite down things like when he's crying, when he seems to be in pain from it, any other thing happening when he's reacting this way (big example, both my girls held their breath and turned purple before it refluxed back up until they were 4 months old), anything that might help the doctor figure out if it's something more than colicGood luckIt's hardI've been in your shoes twice, but it does get better.
Dear Colten's Mom, As you've read from the other posts it is difficult to hear your baby cry, try everything you can think of, and still he continues to seem distressed I'm a 57yo mother of three grown children and I have a 2 1/2yo grandsonPrior to my grandchild's birth I gave my daughter/sil a dvd by DrHarvey Carp and briefly, he shares techniques for swaddling as well as rocking, etc that seem to work like a miracleA tight swaddle really seems to keep a newborn calm You might try some of the techniques others have mentioned but by all means call your doctor's office if you are feeling at a lossThat is why they are there, to educate you and help you through the process of parenthood You might also see if you can find a parent group in your areaYour local library branch may be able to help you locate one as well as your pediatrician's officeIf you know other parents in your neighborhood call on them to see how they handled similar situationsSharing what you learn and learning from those that have already walked down this road, can be a big confidence booster and fun too I assure you that all of this will pass but there will be some tense times and sleepless nights.all a normal part of parenthoodOne day you'll look back and wonder where the time has goneRelish the joyful, playful and quiet times with Colten and know that those trying times will end Congratulations on the birth of your new baby! Susan
