I'm fine with preforming infront of people when i dont know there looking at me and i can give it all i have but when i know someones watching me i feeze up and cant sing. When my mum and dad are downstairs and i dont know if they can hear me or not im fine with singing and i know i can sing not to be vain or anything because i took music gcse and passed by singing. I was asked to join a band and i accepted even though it was a band with my friends i still could'nt sing infront of them. What could i do to get over this?
Singing is very hard - I'd much rather be in front of an audience of 100 people I don't know than 5 of my closest friends. Try starting out with a choir for a year or two - you'll probably be much more comfortable singing with a bunch of other people singing the same thing. Some choral pieces call for solos, duets, or small groups and when you feel confident enough, you can try out for one of those parts. You might find this easier because you still won't be singing alone - the whole group will be backing you up. Also, who says you have to sing just because you're good at it? It's like saying you have to play basketball because you're tall. There are tons of other instruments out there, or you can also compose or be involved in music in any other numerous ways. Knowing *how* to sing will just be a bonus everyone else doesn't have.
You just have to perform as much as you can. Get invovled in a choir or musical theatre. I used to be terrified to sing, but I tried out for show choir (which was nerve-wracking in itself), made the cut and started performing in front of big audiences with a group, and eventually I was comfortable singing solos and now I can go into an audition and have fun and not be nervous, or sing solo parts in front of an audience. It's just regularly getting in front of an audience and conquering your fears. It will come, you just need to practice.
You've got to perform to get over stage fright. Don't worry- you will get better at it, I promise (learned from experience). If you freeze up during the first few performances and don't sing your best, that's okay- once you perform enough, you'll quit freezing up. Maybe you should ask your friends to give you a couple months before singing with their band so you can gear up on performance skills. In the meanwhile, try joining a city choir or youth choir where you'll have to perform- and try out for solos. You'll never know if (or when) you'll get one. I used to be underconfident with singing, and I joined a city choir and got a solo. We had to give ten performances. The first two, I froze up. I didn't freeze up at the third, and I have never frozen up performing ever since. Generally people say that singing in front of peers is harder than singing in front of an audience. Learning to perform to an audience is necessary for being in a band, and once you can perform, it will be easier to sing in front of your peers. Hope this helps, and good luck singing!
The only way to get over your stage fright is by doing it, repeatedly. Start going to places where they have karaoke and perform. Quite often, if you just sit and watch others perform, you will find some that really can't sing. Its easier to perform in front of people when you know that they aren't really good when they do it. That's not a criticism of them, the purpose of karaoke is to have fun.
