When my son comes is it safer for him to sleep with me and my husband in our bed or in his bed?
I know there are a bunch of people out there that think co-sleeping is the best. I am n ot one of them. I think everyone gets better sleep when they are in their own space. We had my son in his pack-n-play right next to our bed for the first 6-8 weeks (until he started going for a longer stretch without nursing), then we gradually transitioned him to his own crib for naps and night. If you co-sleep, you may end up with a 3 year old who will not go ot bed unless you lay down next to them. I think it just leads to one more thing you have to wean them from. Also, cosleeping doesn't teach the child how to fall asleep on their own, and since the baby is right there, the parents may be to quick to assume they are waking up due to hunger when really they are just shifting sleep phases and would have fallen back asleep in a minute or two on their own. I say, keep him in your room at first (in a bassinet) for piece of mind and convenience but move him into his own crib as soon as you feel conmpfortable.
My one month old sleeps with me. She doesn't sleep well in her baby bed for some reason. I think it is a personal preference. My hubby's in the military so there is plenty of room in my bed for her. I just have my bed up against a wall and put her on the side of the bed with the wall so she can't fall off. I don't put my big comforter even near her and she's fine. Someone said it is illegal... I don't know Ive never heard this. But Im sure babies have been hurt sleeping with their parents, however their parents were probably not cautious. Babies hurt in baby beds too. I just didn't feel right with sleeping with my baby in another oom because my room is too crowded.
You should put the baby in there own bed you can have it in your room but you don't want to have baby sleeping with you there are several things that could happen you could accidentally roll over onto baby, the baby could get blankets thrown on them on accident and suffocate, and the baby would get to use to sleeping with you and want to do it forever and then you and your partner wouldn't have any privacy. You wont want to start that sleeping with you because of the problems it could cause when the child gets older. So i suggest having either the bassinet or crib whatever it may be that you are going to use for baby in your room til the baby gets a little older and them move the child to its own room and use a baby monitor so you will make sure to be able to hear if they wake up in the middle of the night then to let the baby sleep with you.
The family bed or co-sleeping puts a damper on Mom and Dad's private time and intimacy. Forget spontaneous lovemaking. Some parents use co-sleeping to avoid addressing serious problems in their marital relationship, giving the couple a false sense of security in their marriage. If co-sleeping goes on too long, husbands and wives have difficulty adjusting to sleeping together when the child finally begins solitary sleeping. Many parents think children either don't hear them making love or are too young to know what's going on. Wrong. To children, lovemaking sounds like fighting and inflicting pain. Babies and toddlers who share a room with their parents may need Mom and Dad present to fall asleep long after co-sleeping is discontinued. Because some single mothers are literally afraid to sleep alone at nights, they sleep with their little ones in the bed. This is unhealthy for both mother and child. The constant movement or noise of the baby can interfere with the parents' ability to get a good night's sleep, and they wake up exhausted in the morning. Suffocation and strangulation are real dangers that can be caused by an adult rolling on top of the baby, too much soft bedding (quilts, pillows and blankets) and rigid object that can trap baby's head. Co-sleeping can lead to what some parents perceive as very dependant and demanding sleep behavior at night. Co-sleeping? There's a lot of information out there, both pro and con. For your baby's sake, do your research before you decide. Sleep well - and happy.
Sleeping with your baby makes nighttime feedings/wakings easier because you and he will be more in sync with your sleep cycles, so you will tend to wake at the same times naturally. I think cute nurseries are a waste and that babies are best off as close to the parents as possible (at least in the same room) until they sleep through the night regularly. Be warned, though, I slept with my babies and was bragging on how they slept through the night--then I put them in another room: I just wasn't fully waking and would feed them while pretty much asleep.
