My birthday is coming up in about a week and I'm going to be 14. I have no idea what to ask for. any ideas? thanks (:
Dont just take a weeks alawance, take about a months worth. He is 13 and not a little kid anymore. Punishments have to be extended now that they are older. I have a 15 year old boy, he never gets alowence, he does ok with friends, chores and stuff. I really don't have problem with him. I do punish by takin the computer, television and video games all at once when he answers back to us. My husband and I have a really good close relationship with both my boys, ages 14 and 15. Good luck with your son. I think 13 is way too young to be going out alone at night. Remember that teen will missbehave just for fun without knowing the concequeces. I don't let my own 15 yearl old go out past 10:00p.m, he carries a cell phone and we know who he is with, plus their phone number in hand just in case. Good luck with your 13 year old.
Understanding that this is the G/F's boy, I think it is still essential for you AND her to sit down with him and show him the terrible things and people that are out there. Then remind him that while he thinks he's a MAN he is but a BOY and could easily be over powered by some CREEP down town. We are all adults here and at those hours its only drug atticts and drug dealers out. Then after scaring the crap out of him I think the advice left by ReneeLo was good.
There is nothing for YOU to do but butt out of it. You are not the child's father, you are only the man the child's mother is sleeping with. You have no business getting involved in the disciplining of this child. Obviously the mother has no control over her son, has allowed him to have complete control in the past and lacks parental knowledge, my suggestion would be for HER to take parenting classes and learn how to deal with a growing teen. For youit's BUTT OUT.
I don't understand why it's so hard to include the tires you got vs the tires you had. Obviously you went the cheapest route, so you get what you pay for. Like the wise ones stated, the theory on trunk weight with front wheel drive? No worries, you can keep it there, being liter is not that heavy anyway. Pack quick tire chain option as well. About a $100, but could save you from certain death of cold when it's 30 below and wind walking. Been there done that. They found me with cracked open flesh. After walking 3 miles, I slipped on the ice in middle of road cracking my head into pavement. Somehow, in the night a car stopped on glare ice and picked me up. The only spot on leg not frozen was where small folded note was in my pocket. Play the game smarter. Second chances are not guaranteed.
I personally would punish him for at least a month. If he were mine first off for goign out at night, second for lying. I would take his allowance for the month, take tv, computer, video games, and phone time for 2 weeks just for lying about it IT could have been serious, and if you dont' stop it now it'll only get worse. Then for the going out consider grounding him for a month of no friends over and no going out. If he hates the consequences chances are he won't try sneaking out at night again.
