House alarm system going off for no reason?/?
too dangerous don't attempt it.
The problem you have is the reverse of what most guys have, but not a real problem, all you have to do is give it some thought. Who decides what is going to be made for dinner? Does that person decide for every meal? My guess is yes, and I can tell you from my personal experience that it gets tiring coming up with a meal plan every day. I would appreciate the other person planning and making a meal now and then. The other person just has to belly up to the table and eat, not thinking about the shopping, planning, cooking, serving and cleaning up. Your partner is feeling the same about sex, and you just have to treat it like planning for a meal: there is preparation, cooking, serving and then cleanup. First be sure the bedroom is clean and the sheets have been changed, suggest a bath or shower ( and you run the water, set the towels out and offer to scrub her back) , meanwhile you have lowered the lights and lit a candle with some soft music on. Step out of your usual sleepwear ( sweatpants not overly stimulating) with a white A shirt and a pair of loose boxers. Dry her off after her bathing and hold her hand as you lead her into the bedroom, she will be impressed if you have done all this and normally don't do anything. Tease her with light touches and kisses, avoided too much direct contact on the obvious spots because she wants to be seduced. Don't hurry, remember it's the journey that is important, not just the end of the trip. You only have to do this once in awhile and she will be happy you are taking the lead now and then. It doesn't cost alot to do this stuff: just prep, cooking, serving, and then cleanup ( get out of bed and get her a towel and a glass of chilled wine or something).