Okay, so I'm in college and I like to party and have fun. This includes occasional oral sex but I am wondering do any other girls worry that the guy will stop respecting her once she goes down on him. Especially while on their knees, I mean this makes me feel like a slave and not in a kinky way..in a way that makes me feel worthless. Guys do you really enjoy seeing the woman you love kneeling like that? Do you respect her any less or think of her differently?
OK this is a good question because it brought up a debate that my sister and I had a few months ago. She's from another generation (17 year gap!) She's 19, I'm 36. When I was growing up, it was considered the most demeaning thing you could do. Wayyy worst then having sex in the naughty things to do category. Now my sister says that it is quite the opposite now, That oral sex is considered socially acceptable. I'm not talking about long relationships and marriage, this is causal bf/gf relationships. It's strange how one generation can go so far in the opposite direction, then the other. I guess my parents said the same about me and their parents. HECK wayyyyyyyyyyyyy back.. showing your ankle was scandalous! We've come a long way from that. lol Personally I can't get past the casual oral sex thing. When I was younger, I remember my generation feeling the same, excluding their long term girlfriends and wives. *BUT* your business is your business, no one can take your dignity or pride away from you unless you let them. Some men do look down on woman that do oral sex and some don't think any less of you. All enjoy it. lol It depends how they were brought up, their religion, what is considered normal for them. If it doesn't feel right for you then that should be good enough. To hear some people talk, it's like they believe that they are safe from diseases because they are not having actual intercourse.... This, of course, is not true and that STD (diseases-Nasty Critters! :p) DO catch through oral sex, not just intercourse. Do what you feel is right. If it feels wrong DONT do it! Listen to your instincts. Who cares what the guy thinks. He will respect your decision or he can take off. peace
This Site Might Help You. RE: Is preforming oral sex demeaning? (esp while kneeling)? Okay, so I'm in college and I like to party and have fun. This includes occasional oral sex but I am wondering do any other girls worry that the guy will stop respecting her once she goes down on him. Especially while on their knees, I mean this makes me feel like a slave and not in a kinky...
Partying with occasional oral sex is not really like asking about the woman the guys love. Casual sex just for the fun of it can be demeaning, but I personally think BJ is almost a more personal thing than regular sex. If it makes you feel worthless, maybe you should quit doing it.
Seeing the girl I love in that kind of position is a little different than looking at some random girl who will do that to just anyone for fun. So no, it wouldnt change a thing if it were my girlfriend. However, it sounds like youre that second girl I mentioned. If thats the case there are probably ALOT of people who dont have any kind of respect for you. True, you wont ever have a hard time getting with certain guys but those guys might have even less respect for you. One type of guy sees you as a sIut and the other sees you as an object...a piece of meat.
