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This sounds similar to my brother. He decided he wanted to live with our father when he was about 11 or 12. He got in trouble all the time. And then my mom found out that our dad and step-mom were taking weekend trips and leaving him alone in the house. When he did bad things, they did nothing to punish him and blamed his behavior on our step-father. Our father chose his wife over his son and shipped my brother off to job-corps in another state where he did nothing (they never helped him get his GED or anything.and all the training he did was worthless). I wish I had easy answers. But I would address this with their father, tell him that his step-childrens behavior is unacceptible in from of his REAL children. And if you have to, keep them from visiting. And then smack your daughter in the head for using such a mouth. My step-dad was tough about handling us when we were kids. I turned out half-assed ok (not in jail, not on drugs, married before I had my kids) and my brother would have been fine had it not been for our sperm donor father.
Sit down with your daughter. Don't yell, just talk. Ask her how she feels and workout a curfew, chores, and other tasks you both are happy with. Just don't yell at her for not being the way you want her to, and when she does something good, praise her. She needs to know that she can have a temper tantrum but you will still be there for her. If she still doesn't cooporate then you should ground her but be calm about it. Just don't scream in her face for being different than her siblings.
Okay, if you truely think that the fathers house it so blame, you might want to try to talk to the father. You should have a calm and CIVILIZED conversation with your teen about how you dont wish to be treated that way. BUT the only way that would work would be if you stay calm and collected. You have to tell your teen that this behavior is unacceptable. You could try to talk to a counsolor, or get your teen to. Most likely this is just a phase, BUT you should'nt allow your teen to act like that.
Hi, I am sorry to learn this news.. Is it mentioned in the HSBC rules book that you should have 5 lever lock, or did you sign that paper at the time of insuring the house. If not you can hire a good lawyer and then fight back legally, you will get your claims.
My guess would be that yes, your daughter is picking up habits from her dad's house. It is extremely important to be consistent with structure and boundaries, and it sounds like she does not get that when she's not at your house. Of course she is going to want to spend time at her dad's house since she can pretty much do whatever she wants, but if you have sole custody, and she's not following through with your expectations, she doesn't have to be there. It also sounds like he's a real ******, and may be talking s*** about you to her to get her to take sides. Not healthy for her at all. It's also pretty common for a 16 year old to have an attitude (as I'm sure you know), but my advice would be to create rules and consequences for your house - create a curfew, have rules about attending school, chores, verbal abuse, property destruction and so forth - and keep taking away things that are of value to her. Even if she has paid for certain things, you can still take them away - cell phone, house phone, tv, video games, computer. Take something away for 1-3 days when she breaks the rules and stay consistent with it. I don't know how easy it is for her to get to her dad's house without you taking her, but I would also stop letting her go over there on the weekends. After all, it's during the weekends when kids can cause the most trouble, and it's probably best that she stays with you during that time. Make her earn the right to see her dad if that's what she wants. Right now, she's not earning anything. I also don't know how long you have been separated/divorced from her dad, but she may be suffering from some sort of grief/loss or depression about not having a healthy father in her life, and may need counseling services.
