Would it be that guy in a flight suit yelling mission accomplished or would you rather have the guy who is brave and organized and knows how to get you out alive? I don't care if he can tell a joke or not! Can he lead under fire??!!
What is important to her? Start taking some of those things away - cell phone, TV, computer, social life. One by one, take them and keep them until she shows more effort. Don't back down or fall prey to whining, tantrums or, Pleeeeeeeze, I'll really, really try and do better. Stick to your guns. She may not care until it costs her something. Maybe she would like her room on display - take her door off the hinge and put it away. She gets it back when the room stays satisfactory for a determined period of time. Now, there is a little grace here. Teenagers can be, well, pigs. As long as their room can be reasonably walked across and there is no food or flammables, it is reasonable to let things slide. If they let their friends see their mess, it is their own mess, too bad. Being the rest of the house is clean, it is really no reflection on you. None of us really changes until the cost of where we are outweighs the cost of change.
My best ones? Well, on my best one, Rainbow Puppy Toon, I have Toon-up: Cane Throw: B-day cake Squirt: Fire hose Lure: 3rd (which IDK what its called) Trap: 2nd (which IDK what its called) On my newer one, Twightlight Beauty, I have Toon-up: feather Throw: slice of cream pie Squirt: squirt gun
