they ruin freaking dreams, guys!!!Why does everything done in life to them have to be realistic? What is wrong with having dreams?
Because they are preparing you to be a self-sufficient adult in the real world.
Maybe because theirs we're shot. Don't let anyone get you down. Keep dreaming :-)
Being a parent of grown sons I feel qualified to answer this question. Sometimes parents appear to be dream crushers when that is not their intent at all. Foremost in a father's mind in this type of situation is that the child become responsible enough to take care of him/herself in real life without needing help from parents. So that is on the parents mind instead of a dream that doesn't seem very responsible. Many times parents really do crush dreams without realizing it. Whoever is doing the crushing needs to be politely told that their comments and attitude are crushing a dream that is very important to you. Both the adults and teens/adolescents need to treat each other with honor.
That depends, doesn't it, on why they are crushing their dreams...? I have a silent war going on with both of my brothers concerning the dream crushing business with regard to my nieces nephews. They think all dreams should be brought down to the dirt of reality starting around 13 or 14. I think only dreams that are outside the possibility of the particular child should be crushed. (We don't actually talk about it using that language, but I'd bet my nieces nephews would hear it that way) The first point I would make to you is that adults do have a better hold on the real world as it really is that kids do. I know it is hard to believe at 14 and impossible at 18, but it is true. The second point is that young people often want adults to pay the bill for their dreams. That is an entirely different kind of dream crushing: he who has the money, rightly rules. On the other hand, dreams that are based upon your actual work and accomplishments so far, should be encouraged up and to the point that the young person actually takes the risks herself and continues to excel in the path chosen.
I have to disagree with your question/statement. I am an adult and a parent and I have always taught my son to dream big and work for it. I have supported his dreams and goals 100% and have done everything in my power to make sure he has had the tools to get him where he wants to go. He's off to college soon and I am so proud of him. He has huge goals for his life and I hope that from the support his parents have given to him, he can achieve anything.
