ANY advice is appreciated, thank you!My parents have been married for 17 years, and got divorced about 4 months ago. Yesterday over dinner, my father announced that he is getting married....to my aunt (mom's sister)........As ridiculous and shocking the whole divorce thing was, this was like being kicked in the groin after being hit by a bulldozer. I don't know WHEN they started dating, or HOW this is even possible, but what I do know is that I don't want them to get married. I'm generally an accepting person and can deal with strange situations, but I am appalled and disgusted by this. My twin brother stormed out and went to go live with his friend for the next week, and I felt like doing the same, but then I felt bad about leaving my father in his crisis. I cannot accept this as it is but I don't know how to tell my dad. Please PLEASE help me out!!
You and your twin brother are not alone. Grown-ups make bad decisions all the time. Try to remove yourself from the weird situation as much as you can. Spend more time with your Mom--she's probably more shocked than you two are! Don't hate your Dad--unfortunately people fall in love with inappropriate people and then spend their lives living with the consequences. Find someone the two of you can confide in so you can get things off your chest. Good luck.
nothing you can do about it, hes an adult, and hes going to do what he wants
WOW! That is an extra strange awkward situation. You have every right to feel shocked. You sound as if you are living with your dad. You didn't say your age, but, that also seems to be older-like 16-17? If you are that age, you will be leaving soon.You don't have to worry about leaving your dad..... I don't think your dad is in "crisis"!!! I think he is happy if he is planning a marriage. He does know it is a hard situation-he might lose both of you, but, is willing to marry your aunt. It is not like this hasn't happened before. He is probably very set to do this -he knows the consequences. Your brother already demonstrated the anger and rejection of the idea. If you ask him not to marry her, do you realize you will be heading into your own life very soon and he will be alone when he has made this big decision-which was , I AM SURE, a very, very hard decision. You will have to learn to live with this, sweetheart. If you totally reject it and move away like your brother, your life will be a life without your dad. He has thought about this, I doubt he will change. You have to accept it or move on without having anything to do with him. It is going to be very, very hard. Your mom is going to be hurting and she will need you. You will be torn in different directions. Know this: He loves you. Your mom loves you. You all will be living different lives. There are lots of kids out there with parents in jail, no mom or dad, moms or dads who left them with grandparents, gave them up for adoption, parents who have killed the other parent...the list goes on. It seems like the end of the world and you are mortified, but, it is just a difficult life transition. It has nothing to do with you. He loves you. He just found love somewhere else and it happened to be your aunt. So sorry. Good analogy-hit in groin after bulldozer-ouch.
